So many single female friends...

Posted by G0D (211 days ago)

...where are all the blokes?

I recently got married this year to a lovely girl and I've begun to realise that I've got tonnes (well dozens) of single female friends who are all looking for a decent fella.

My friends come from different countries, backgrounds, ages and races and most of them are stunning girls that vary from 40 year old (though you can't tell by looking) millionaires to 20 year old expat/local girls that just want to meet a nice guy. I have to say that they are not looking for one nighters or just Sex, (well a couple of the expat girls are wold on the town) they are all after a relationship.

Where/what direction should I be pointing them?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

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Posted by len_in_shanghai (211 days ago)

Definitely NOT to the expat community. Only a (sorry) fool would marry having so much freely available lovely girls...I am yet to meet a guy who can keep loyal after 2 years in here...

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by Strawberry_Shortcake (210 days ago)

there are many nice girls in HK who are looking for relationships, in fact, those who claim they only want one nighters/just sex, ALSO want a relationship. so what you are telling us is no rocket science...but what does that have to do with the fact you are recently married with a lovely girl?

btw, congrats!! :)) all the best

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Little Carmen (210 days ago)

Len, seriously man, what kinda men do you hang out with? Brokers? *SMH* lol...

>GOD - well, a lot of the time, women have high expectations here...and for your millionaire friends, well, thats a bit of a daunting thing for a non millionaire. I mean, which average Joe would want to date someone really rich without feeling kinda weird about it?

I'll be honest with you, I mean, I had a friend who pretty much owns a good chunk of HK...It was cool for him, coz he got to be friends with someone "normal" who wasnt buddying up to him for his money...but at some point, it just got to where myself and other friends just felt "Damn, he's just too rich for us". Its nice to go to the American Club for a hang out session, but it sucks when you cant pay for it. It may not feel bad initially, but unless you are willing to sit back and feel like a member of Vincent Chase's "Entourage"...it gets weird at some point. It gets weird for someone who doesnt want to, intentionally or otherwise, feel like a hanger onner. Rich people are just used to a different standard of living and dont always find it easy to get a quick bowl of wonton min on the go...at some point they will want to do fancy stuff again.

As for all your other single friends...its tough for the expat girls because most expat guys, like len has seen, dont come out to asia so as to date their own kind...at least for the first few years they are either knee deep in local talent or are ready to defect back to their own kind.

I dont know what direction you can point them, really...'cept maybe that they can do with joining a class for something cool like capoiera? Or maybe go to a drum jam session somewhere...y'know? Basically break the routine, dont go out with a hoard of women friends, take a german class, join a performing arts troupe...I dunno...the standard salsa classes or speed dating is just useless. If someone is actively seeking and is open, honest and approachable...AND goes on out there in a proactive manner, pshhh....it shouldnt be that tough.

Worst comes to worst there is always : http://mailorderhusbands.net/order/

Heheh...

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Strawberry_Shortcake (210 days ago)

I did german class! most were females.
carmen, the wonton min bit is cute :)
G0D, do your friends go to the gym?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Strawberry_Shortcake (210 days ago)

that explains why i had 3 different guys chatting me up one day when i was studying in starbucks for my german exam!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by G0D (210 days ago)

"Why does being recently married have to do with havinf lots of single friends"

Not much, I'd just never noticed it really before. I've been here 6 years and dating my current wife for 5 of those and I've never strayed the nest.

My problem, (I think) is that most of my mates are (1) local guys who are terrified of dating a western girl; (2) my local female mates seem to be hanging on waiting for Mr. Fit-Cathy-Pilot-Stinking-Rich-Yet-Funny-and-Loyal (Sorry I just picked Cathy at random, I've gothing against them); (3) expat girls who are hanging out looking for the same bloke that (2) is waiting for.

(4) My single expat male mates are not exactly decent catches either

...typing this, I think that I've just figured out why I've got lots of single female friends

(I am based in Hong Kong)