please help

Posted by topgal (295 days ago)

i just found out my long term boyfriend is a member of a dating website&his profile says''looking for asian girl to date" i cant belive it , i feel sooo hurt
how do i confront him on the matter- i found out by looking on the history on our computer at home-as i was looking for something-i just feel so betrayed , am i over reacting??

(I am based in Hong Kong)

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Posted by flashback (295 days ago)

Why would you bother confronting him, except to give him his marching orders?

How clear does it need to be? I mean, in his own words, "I'm looking for an Asian girl to date." What part don't you understand? What more can be said?

Kick him out.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by topgal (294 days ago)

i know i ought too , but i cant.....................

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by mimisan (293 days ago)

If you can't chuck him then you should forget this and pretend nothing has happened. If you confront him, he is going to accuse you of snooping thru his things and he might chuck you instead. Note: he might be dating a few already!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by candyliquor (293 days ago)

If his profile is still active, why still asking urself 'over-reacting'???? the fact is here obiviously... Well, if u were still in love with him, and u still think he loves u accept the fact, or just tell urself u had a bad dream by finding ur bf's little secret. If u wanna prove whether he still loves u or not, u sign in the same website and flirt with ur bf, by chatting u can simple find out what you wanna know, by doing that, if u could still accept ur bf infidelity, then great...if u couldn't, u either could set a date to confronte him and discard him, or just simplely ditch him without any explaination and leave him in a miserable world for a while..

"i know i ought too , but i cant.." if u can't, do what u can then...really it's ur own choice to live with WHOM and end in WHAT WAY...

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by xavieryang (293 days ago)

the problem is how what you want to get from this relationship.Check this out:what was your motive to be with him at the beginning?and have you got what did you want from this relatioship up to now? then make your choice.To cheat on or be cheated on is a real question

(I am based in Bangkok)

Posted by topgal (293 days ago)

just confronted him , he says im over reacting&he was just doing it for fun - he tells me hes deleted his profile now-
and hes sorry

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Aulelei (293 days ago)

hmm.. a bit of fun? sounds like he was after a specific type of fun ie. an "asian" girl to date as opposed to just anyone. I dunno, its not a very funny thing to do - maybe ask him if he would be so accepting if you did the same? One of two things is likely, you two have totally different senses of humour (he thought it was fun, you are distressed by it) OR he is a bored SOB who puts his amusement over his gf's feelings. I guess sorry is a good place for him to start, but i dont know if i could get over it so quickly... as i would now be questioning if he accesses the website from another account at his workplace?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by nifty2 (292 days ago)

busted
now trying to cover rear
he could've been doing it for an ego boost,
but chances seem slim that he wouldn't have responded if a suitable dish was offered

(I am based in Unspecified)