Men's patience...

Posted by gabb (359 days ago)

If a man isn't really interested, he wouldn't spend so much time and attention on you, would he? He would have just given up after a few tries? Please give me some advice! Thank you!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Kate71 (359 days ago)

Generally no one keeps bashing their head against a brick wall unless their interested in something (friendship/ a relationship/ whatever)

What's going on?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by car_lover (359 days ago)

1st question = yes
2nd question = unless ur playing hard to get then yes after a few tries

Why waste time when a girl is not interested? To me at least.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by gabb (359 days ago)

I was having this discussion with a few girl friends. My view is they won't unless they like you.

They will give up after a few tries, especially after the woman has angrily told them to stop bothering them. But the question is, what if the guy still seems to pursue but in a less explicit way? Logically speaking, this will not happen. But what if it does? What if the man still shows you in a very subtle way that he's still interested? My explanations are:

1) That guy just doesn't get the message;
2) He gets the wrong message;
3) He doesn't get the wrong message but it's the woman who's not being truthful to herself -- ie, she does like him but refuses to admit that. And the guy knows about it.
4) He is a player and is still pursuing because he likes the challenge. (But this means that we're falling into the conspiracy theory thinking and thus is not logical at all!)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by car_lover (359 days ago)

Cld be that he doesn't get the wrong message but just wanna try his best to pursue someone he is really interested in. Who knows he might be lucky and the gal might give him a chance later on, right?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Claire (359 days ago)

Perhaps he thought you might be worth going after and then realised you weren't.

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by lyn123 (351 days ago)

I wonder that some men's have a lot of patience epecially if they are escorting a woman whom they like and have a deep desire to be with this woman.Patience means sincerity,like me im too childish woman and spoiled brat to my bf but i can garuntee myself that my bf won't give up on me having his deep patience co's he loves me very much and now we are a happy couple just got marriage last month here in china. We are both christian and going to the church every sunday,also we are both foriegners.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by tigerbay (349 days ago)

From a male perspective.

Looking at many of the threads on this site.

If a guy doens't try he is a waste of space, if he tries to show he is interested he 'doesn't get the message'. If he tries and then decide he does not like you he is a b4st4rd.

Come on girls, give us a break.


It seems to me a guy cannot win.

(I am based in Shanghai)