So Over Him....

Posted by MahiMahi (388 days ago)

Morning, since I, for some unknown reasons had been banned, I can't reuse my old handle "Blood Diamond"..... sigh. From Diamond to a Fish.:-)

Isn't it funny how a person that you thought you were so in love with could suddenly make one wrong move, and that was the straw that broke the camel's back? You wake up the next day and think "Gosh, I am so over him!" This guy wasn't my boyfriend but we dated a couple of times. He seemed older (he is more than a decade older), worldier, smarter, and all I had wanted in a guy
Then you look back at his actions one day, and realise that there are so many things about him you dislike and that you will never be happy with a man who is so unreliable, who wallows in his sorrows, who's a coward, and so on

So people, tell me, how is it that when we think we are in love, we are so goddamn blinded to all their faults????

Is there a way to remain objective and sane when our hearts are beating 500 miles per hour for this person???

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by dont know why (388 days ago)

Maybe you were not so "in love" afterall? A couple of dates is not even enough to find out his middle name let alone fall in love.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by wakatipuqt (388 days ago)

when you rush in you get a hit of 'crazy in love' but inevitably crash when you realise you dont actually know the person you 'love' all that well. your feelings of love have been smothered by an equally strong reaction of 'who the f*** is this guy again?' eeeeek! run!
maybe all you need is some time out? take things slower next time, then you wont freak out when you wake up next to him! damn, i bet you just wanted to click her heels three times and disappear! admit it...it was the old man nasal hair that made you wanna bolt, right?! lol!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by HK1 (388 days ago)

If you are in love with someone you make allowances for their faults and do not expect them to be perfect.Sounds to me that's what you expect from a guy, which might be why you are alone.
A relationship is built on give and take. If you love someone for who they are, then you will find a way to work through their faults and they will do the same with yours.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by MahiMahi (388 days ago)

waka, its not the nasal hair...LOL!
don't know why, I know his middle name :-)

thanks for the response people. To elucidate, I wasn't expecting him to be perfect. I was willing to overlook the fact that he has a lot of emotional baggage - including an ex, trying a little too hard to be cool, makes sudden dissapearances and makes last minute cancellations....all these I was blind to initially....

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by justin credulous (388 days ago)

I call it manic depression, lol. One minute you feel everything and then suddenly you feel nothing. You go from cup runneth over to empty tin cup...always needs a trigger though, in his case, he said or did something to trigger off the bleh. :o)

(I am based in Iraq)

Posted by HK1 (388 days ago)

Is this the same guy that told you a few weeks ago he was moving???

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by MahiMahi (388 days ago)

I think its now an empty tin cup....like I said, the straw that broke the camel's back. After yet another last minute cancellation, it totally killed what remnants of feelings I had for this person. I hope (for my sake), it remains that way - FOREVER!

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by justin credulous (388 days ago)

Well then you should be doing the happy dance. You are finally free! :o)

(I am based in Iraq)

Posted by HK1 (388 days ago)

Ahh, but what or who will she now create threads about

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by MahiMahi (388 days ago)

hehehehe....HK1, probably something along the lines of "What should I do with a cheapskate of a guy"....hahahahaha...wooops, Ed, please don't ban me, I wasn't trying to use this forum as a CHATROOM! :-)

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by HK1 (388 days ago)

Hmmm, I think there are alot of cheap women as well

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by wakatipuqt (388 days ago)

and a lot of native speakers who can't spell properly ;)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by flashback (388 days ago)

MahiMahi... yes...it is amazing how one can go completely 'off' someone... Actually, it helps me to know this when I break off with someone or someone breaks off with me... that in a few weeks (or less in some instances!) I feel so... wow... completely relieved! Back to my own self again!! So great... no stupid stuff to worry about!!! Yea!

Can't believe someone would say something so patronising as '...maybe that's why you're alone...' as if 'alone' is so horrible... It's not hard at all to be coupled in this town, or anywhere really... It's just (ho hum, same old line)... finding the right one.... but in the meantime, wow.. it's so good to be alone and with the whole summer ahead of us!!!! To just do what we please... Smile girl!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by MahiMahi (388 days ago)

liked your comments, Flash :-)

I guess some people view "alone" as a negative & pathetic word. Most of these people find comfort and security only as a "couple", which says a lot about their sense of self-confidence. Basically, being a "couple" is great, but like you said, only with the right one. Other than that, I'll take "alone", thank you very much....:-)

(I am based in Singapore)